For me it’s often that I haven’t accepted that He knows what’s good for me better than I do. I want immediate results and get frustrated when God doesn’t work on my plan rather than on his. If I accept it, I usually feel better and in the long run things work out far better than I had even hoped for. Waiting and keeping faith is hard but makes us stronger.

I think the question to consider is does God really cause our suffering or is this a case of blaming God for what we think and do within ourselves. For me, suffering comes when my expectations do not fit within my present reality. That is my own thoughts or past experiences are projected forward with a sense of future expectations. When my present experience does not align with past expectations, then I feel discontent with my present situation. My suffering comes in the emotional response to resolving this conflict of my expectations and my current situation.

Fundamentally, I believe this question is addressed in one’s belief in free will or predetermination. If we have free will, then all actions are our responsibility and any misalignment with God is our own doing. If God has predetermined all actions, then any misalignment is our own misinterpretation and these activities are actually in perfect accord with the will of God. Either way, God is not to blame for our suffering. The blame rest solely on our interpretation of the current events in retrospect to our own expectations and not those of God.